# Your Place or Mine (film)
**Your Place or Mine** is a 2023 American romantic comedy written and directed by Aline Brosh McKenna in her feature directing debut, starring [Reese Witherspoon](https://www.edgepedia.org/reese-witherspoon) and [Ashton Kutcher](https://www.edgepedia.org/ashton-kutcher) as two longtime best friends who swap homes for a week[1](https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/your-place-or-mine-movie-review-2023). It was released by Netflix on February 10, 2023, simultaneously in select United States theaters and on the streaming service, as the platform's [Valentine's Day](https://www.edgepedia.org/valentines-day) offering[2](https://media.netflix.com/en/only-on-netflix/81045831) • [3](https://www.reelviews.net/reelviews/your-place-or-mine). A different 1983 romantic comedy of the same title, directed by Robert Day and starring Robert Klein and Bonnie Franklin, also exists[4](https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/your_placeor_mine).
| Key fact | Detail |
|---|---|
| Release | Netflix and select US theaters, February 10, 2023[2](https://media.netflix.com/en/only-on-netflix/81045831) |
| Director and writer | Aline Brosh McKenna, her feature directing debut[1](https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/your-place-or-mine-movie-review-2023) |
| Leads | Reese Witherspoon as Debbie, Ashton Kutcher as Peter[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/) |
| Runtime and rating | 109 minutes; PG-13 for suggestive material and brief strong language[1](https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/your-place-or-mine-movie-review-2023) • [6](https://apnews.com/article/01233de63fa7dfbbf65e05994501fdd3) |
| Critical scores | Metascore 49 from 26 reviews; Rotten Tomatoes 31% from 111 reviews, audience score 35%[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/) • [7](https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/your_place_or_mine_2023) |
| Production companies | Aggregate Films, Hello Sunshine, Lean Machine[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/) |
| Streaming | Available on Netflix, including Netflix Standard with Ads[8](https://www.justwatch.com/us/movie/your-place-or-mine) |
## Spoilers
### Plot and structure
Debbie (Witherspoon) is a single mother living in Los Angeles with her 13-year-old son Jack (Wesley Kimmel); Peter (Kutcher) is a wealthy consultant living in New York. The two hooked up twenty years earlier, decided friendship was the better path, and have talked every day since[6](https://apnews.com/article/01233de63fa7dfbbf65e05994501fdd3) • [3](https://www.reelviews.net/reelviews/your-place-or-mine). When Debbie travels to New York for a one-week professional course and her childcare falls through, Peter flies to Los Angeles to stay in her house and look after Jack, while she moves into his apartment[6](https://apnews.com/article/01233de63fa7dfbbf65e05994501fdd3). Living each other's lives, each begins to question whether they are more than best friends[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/).
The film's defining structural choice is separation. The leads talk by phone and appear in split screens for nearly the entire running time; the Associated Press review by Mark Kennedy noted that they are not in the same room until the last 12 minutes, and the climax reworks the traditional rom-com airport scene[6](https://apnews.com/article/01233de63fa7dfbbf65e05994501fdd3). Critics repeatedly compared the approach to *Sleepless in Seattle*, which also keeps its would-be lovers apart for most of the film[3](https://www.reelviews.net/reelviews/your-place-or-mine) • [9](https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2023/02/we-deserve-better-romcoms-than-your-place-or-mine-review).
## Cast and crew
Alongside Witherspoon and Kutcher, the cast includes [Zoë Chao](https://www.edgepedia.org/zoe-chao) as Minka, a former flame of Peter's; Jesse Williams as Theo Martin, a book editor Debbie meets in New York; [Tig Notaro](https://www.edgepedia.org/tig-notaro) as Alicia and [Steve Zahn](https://www.edgepedia.org/steve-zahn) as Zen in Los Angeles; Rachel Bloom as Scarlet; and Wesley Kimmel as Jack[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/). Several members of the *Crazy Ex-Girlfriend* team appear, including Bloom, Michael Hitchcock, and Vella Lovell, reflecting McKenna's work as co-writer of that series[10](https://www.adrianmartinfilmcritic.com/reviews/y/your_place_or_mine.html).
McKenna had previously written *The Devil Wears Prada* and *27 Dresses*[1](https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/your-place-or-mine-movie-review-2023). The film was shot by cinematographer Florian Ballhaus with music by Siddhartha Khosla[3](https://www.reelviews.net/reelviews/your-place-or-mine). McKenna also co-wrote the song "Embers," which appears in the film multiple times[11](https://www.beautifulballad.org/2023/02/10/exclusive-reese-witherspoon-aline-brosh-mckenna-talk-bringing-to-life-netflixs-your-place-or-mine/).
## Music
The soundtrack leans heavily on [The Cars](https://www.edgepedia.org/the-cars) to establish Peter as a fan of the band. The AP review counted nine Cars songs, including "Heartbreak City," "Drive," and "You Might Think," and joked that the soundtrack could double as a greatest-hits album[6](https://apnews.com/article/01233de63fa7dfbbf65e05994501fdd3). RogerEbert.com's Christy Lemire made the same observation, noting "Drive" plays while Peter is driving[1](https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/your-place-or-mine-movie-review-2023).
## Reception
**Critical response was mixed to negative.** Metacritic assigned a Metascore of 49, labeled "Mixed or Average," based on 26 critic reviews, of which 8 were positive, 13 mixed, and 5 negative[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/). Rotten Tomatoes recorded a 31% Tomatometer from 111 reviews and a 35% audience score from more than 500 ratings; its critics consensus called the film "well-cast but lacking much of a spark"[7](https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/your_place_or_mine_2023). The most common criticism was the separation of the leads: James Berardinelli of Reelviews wrote that keeping the characters physically apart until the end limits the chemistry that might emerge from natural interaction[3](https://www.reelviews.net/reelviews/your-place-or-mine), and Richard Lawson's Vanity Fair review argued the film could not rise above formula despite its pedigree[9](https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2023/02/we-deserve-better-romcoms-than-your-place-or-mine-review).
Positive reviews existed. [The Playlist](https://www.edgepedia.org/the-playlist) scored it 83 and called it "both breezy and deeply emotional," suggesting it could lead a rom-com revival[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/), and [The Hollywood Reporter](https://www.edgepedia.org/the-hollywood-reporter), at 70, called it a breezy charmer that helps re-energize the genre[5](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/). The [Chicago Sun-Times](https://www.edgepedia.org/chicago-sun-times) praised the leads' chemistry while acknowledging the plot was predictable[12](https://www.flicks.co.uk/movie/your-place-or-mine/).
**Audience performance was stronger than the reviews.** Tom's Guide reported that the film reached number one on Netflix shortly after release even as critics were unimpressed[13](https://www.tomsguide.com/news/your-place-or-mine-is-the-new-netflix-no1-movie-but-critics-arent-impressed). JustWatch later recorded an IMDb user rating of 5.7 from about 45,000 votes[8](https://www.justwatch.com/us/movie/your-place-or-mine).
## Legacy and availability
The film remains on Netflix, including the ad-supported tier, with no free streaming options as of late 2026[8](https://www.justwatch.com/us/movie/your-place-or-mine). It is frequently cited in discussions of the streaming-era romantic comedy, both as an example of the genre's revival attempts and of the gap between star power and critical reception[9](https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2023/02/we-deserve-better-romcoms-than-your-place-or-mine-review) • [13](https://www.tomsguide.com/news/your-place-or-mine-is-the-new-netflix-no1-movie-but-critics-arent-impressed).
## References
1. [Your Place or Mine movie review, RogerEbert.com (Christy Lemire, February 10, 2023)](https://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/your-place-or-mine-movie-review-2023)
2. [Your Place or Mine, Netflix Media Center](https://media.netflix.com/en/only-on-netflix/81045831)
3. [Your Place or Mine (United States, 2023), Reelviews (James Berardinelli)](https://www.reelviews.net/reelviews/your-place-or-mine)
4. [Your Place or Mine (1983), Rotten Tomatoes](https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/your_placeor_mine)
5. [Your Place or Mine Reviews, Metacritic](https://www.metacritic.com/movie/your-place-or-mine/)
6. [Review: Reese Witherspoon, Ashton Kutcher shine in a rom-com, AP News (Mark Kennedy, February 10, 2023)](https://apnews.com/article/01233de63fa7dfbbf65e05994501fdd3)
7. [Your Place or Mine (2023), Rotten Tomatoes](https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/your_place_or_mine_2023)
8. [Your Place or Mine streaming: where to watch online, JustWatch](https://www.justwatch.com/us/movie/your-place-or-mine)
9. [We Deserve Better Rom-Coms Than Your Place or Mine, Vanity Fair (Richard Lawson, February 9, 2023)](https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2023/02/we-deserve-better-romcoms-than-your-place-or-mine-review)
10. [Your Place or Mine review, Adrian Martin Film Critic](https://www.adrianmartinfilmcritic.com/reviews/y/your_place_or_mine.html)
11. [Reese Witherspoon & Aline Brosh McKenna Talk Bringing to Life Netflix's Your Place or Mine, BeautifulBallad](https://www.beautifulballad.org/2023/02/10/exclusive-reese-witherspoon-aline-brosh-mckenna-talk-bringing-to-life-netflixs-your-place-or-mine/)
12. [Your Place or Mine, ratings and review quotes, Flicks](https://www.flicks.co.uk/movie/your-place-or-mine/)
13. [Your Place or Mine is the new Netflix No.1 movie, Tom's Guide](https://www.tomsguide.com/news/your-place-or-mine-is-the-new-netflix-no1-movie-but-critics-arent-impressed)
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